I might be just getting even more frustrated at the messaging that is seeking to attract buyers who want things to be easy. 

The ones who think they’ve come to the end of their tether,

but don’t really want to do the work.

*Spoiler alert

Or maybe it’s that I am a whole lot into being realistic, and my Human Design chart indicates that my purpose is to challenge the status quo.

The concept of “without struggle” certainly sounds very attractive, but whether it’s in business (where I receive all this marketing messages)

Or in any part of life. 

Whether we like it or not, all change requires effort, there is NO short cut. 

Work is required

The work might take effort, but it doesn’t have to be a struggle.

Even if it is a struggle at times, it’s also appreciating that there is no growth without some pain, struggle, change to what was.

The reality is, things are only hard when that’s the meaning we create.

OK, might have my Pollyanna glasses on, and yes I am an extreme optimist.


Being optimistic is only a problem if we are not also pragmatic and realistic.

It’s one of the qualities that Simon Sinek mentions in his book Leader’s Eat Last.

When interviewing a senior officer, survivor of prisoner of war camp during either Vietnam or Korea, is that those that did well had a level of optimism.  BUT, with a level of realism.

The ones who did poorly were the ones who approached with toxic positivity.  Meaning the proverbial “Lipstick on a pig” or “glitter on poop” approach.

Positivity and optimism are great, but without grounded perspective there is a long way to fall.

That’s what tended to happen with the naïve optimist.  Because sooner or later the filters come off and the frustration/disappointment can be devastating.


This is why it’s so important to accept that there is truth in the statement “that nothing worth having is easy”.

That doesn’t mean we have to live in a constant state of hard work or punishing stress.

It’s being able to be ok that “$h!+” happens.  Trusting ourselves that we can deal with the reality.  We don’t have to like it, but we can get through.

That when things don’t work out the first time, doesn’t mean we’ve failed.

When the kids melt down, that doesn’t mean we are not good enough.

Choose Wisely

All these events can be used as evidence to fuel progress, or evidence to bring you down.

The thing is, it’s the same stuff.  It’s the meanings we have given that changes its impact on us.

The wonderful thing is that WE, yes us, ourselves, gets to choose the meaning.

No matter what the event, communication, message is that is sent.  We get to decide what it means.

NO ONE can MAKE US FEEL Bad without our permission.

Do you struggle with making empowered choices?

Do you tend to default to pessimism? (not worthy, self-doubt and more)

It might seem totally normal to you.  But chances are it’s a reflection of conditioning.  What I mean is, you might have faulty foundations.  It’s the fact for many of us.

It’s not something to be ashamed of because this is something we can change.

It all begins with making a fresh choice.

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It starts with YOU, their leader/s.

Let’s set you up to be present and have a touch stone to return to when things go off track. 

You are enough, they are worthy and we all belong. 

Together we ARE Stronger.

Author – Leanne G Wakeling – Relationship and Communication Coach, Parenting Mentor,

Behaviour and Thinking Styles Profiler.