by Leanne Wakeling | Human Behaviour, Parenting, Perspective
My dad taught me to separate the deed from the doer. This is an important differentiation for us, the adult, to make because our child can’t yet.Until the prefrontal cortex arrives around ages 8-10 humans don’t have the intrinsic ability to separate doing a bad...
by Leanne Wakeling | Human Behaviour, Parenting, Perspective
As a human, one of the hardest parts of “growing up” becoming an emotional adult has been learning how to surrender to what is. I am sure it’s the reason the universe sent me children who were able to support me learn how to accept that I could not...
by Leanne Wakeling | Human Behaviour, Parenting, Perspective
Reactive/Resentful/Defensive is a common issue that comes up in families. It’s certainly something that I now appreciate was amongst the drivers behind my reactivity. What’s important to appreciate is that when anyone seems to react at you, that it isn’t about you. ...
by Leanne Wakeling | Human Behaviour, Parenting, Perspective
Situation Your not quite four year old is just commencing preschool and seems upset as you are about to leave. You are concerned this is separation anxiety. Response I’m wondering if this is a new behaviour, or whether your child has always been a little...
by Leanne Wakeling | Human Behaviour, Parenting, Perspective
Words have a great influence on how we experience our world. Being aware of and noticing the words we use, whether talking to ourselves or to others impacts how we relate to each other. This week “should” has been showing up A LOT, both in other people’s language,...
by Leanne Wakeling | Human Behaviour, Parenting, Perspective
Respect can be a big trigger issue for lots of us. It’s a common problem in our parent/child relationship, and often drives resentment in our adult relationships too. Why is respect important? Receiving respect from others is important because it helps us to feel...
by Leanne Wakeling | Human Behaviour, Marriage, Parenting, Perspective
One of the most common issues that comes up in the parenting groups I serve is the issue of discipline and how many expectation clashes happen. Chances are YOU know you want to bring your kids up differently to the way you were brought up. Did you discuss that with...
by Leanne Wakeling | Human Behaviour, Imprint period <7, Parenting, Perspective
It’s the festive season. One thing for sure there are going to be moments of emotional overload, even for the strongest amongst us. In order to enable harmony, it’s really useful to have perspective on what is and isn’t reasonable as we go through all the different...
by Leanne Wakeling | Human Behaviour, Imprint period <7, Parenting, Perspective
It’s an issue that comes up a lot. My child is disrespectful, how to I MAKE my child respect their elders? I wonder, what is most important, that a child respect their elders, OR that they are allowed to be on the learning journey of what it means to give and receive...
by Leanne Wakeling | Communication and Relationship, Family, Leadership, Mindset, Parenting, Perspective
Whether you’re a die-hard Festive Season fan or someone who just wants to get it over with, the holidays are full of stress-inducing moments. As kids, my family was generally on the move in one way or another. All part of being a military family. Dad was going to...
